Why do I like watching porn? Well, I like watching love. Why do I like watching couples? People in-love. Love through subjective form. How do we learn to love? From being loved. Well, that wasn’t always pretty and all too often is the case. Right then, so how do we refine the skill of love? We learn by being an observant witness to the skill-full demonstrations of others; those that provide necessary contrast and insight, moreover energizing the soul as if to pull from the pool of the collective unconscious and, like being touched by the hands of god, renewed once more.
Why is it when I look at porn and use my time in that way, though I am satisfied beyond the simple pleasure of ejaculation, I am left wondering at times about the time I have invested. And why might that be?
Perhaps it is because the videos I am watching are only images of the real thing. Mistaking the menu for the food.
But I knew that…
So what is it that I am doing when I’m watching these sex acts? This won’t get x-rated, I promise. I am looking into these people’s faces. What am I looking for? Sincerity… whatever that looks like. And it shows.
And if you can look beyond the reasons wherein you entered the room - all the agendas, insecurities, and biases - you’ll see the reasons why they were in the room, and their baggage or lack thereof.
Where are we focusing our cameras, our radars?
Our agendas only get in the way of everyone else’s. Because their agenda is not our own and - though it can be a great asset when we agree - will stand only to be in the way in the face of absolute disagreement. And in that way our egos cloud our eyes - our true eyes - when the little bugger wants something.
And I’m here to tell ya man, not all these women are wandering daughter jobs. Some of these people just want sex. I mean, if you look for reasons, you’ll almost always find some. Freud said “Sometime’s a cigar is just a cigar.” Carlin said “Sometimes it’s a big brown dick.” I am here to say it can be both.
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